THE MINDSET OF SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE

                   THE MINDSET OF SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE

 

You don't have to be perfect, to be remarkable
you know, aim high but manage my expectations of success.
People see the 30%
they don't see the 70% of not making it or not getting what you want.
And the interesting thing is that when you are honorable to achievement
the wealth and that kind of thing comes automatically.
My story is all about agility
and being able to be flexible.
The five-year, ten-year plan that most CEOs ask
my plan has always been kind of unhinged.
It's just like I go where my passion leads me
and...
and I feel free.
Performance mattered.
Not fame, not money.
How well did you do at something is what mattered.
I've got to get through it.
I've got to take a snapshot of the really great moments
and carry those with me through the really bad ones.
And the trick is
taking your blinders off and remembering to look at those photos.
And it changes the brain,
changes the wiring.
And I try to breathe, breathing changes the wiring.
But it's conscious.
You have to just slow down,
you have to cut out all the noise,
you have to respect yourself.
Young fans with a tattoo of
Danny Zuko or Vincent Vega on their arm and you..
And you say this somewhere I made a difference in their life
were they were..
Was someone glad that you were alive.
Were you valuable to someone by being here?
And you- you want to be valuable
you know, otherwise you're kind of wasting your time
if you don't find your niche to be valuable to something.
You have to be grateful for what...
what you can get.
Plain and simple. Like be grateful for what you have
because that's.. Like we're lucky to even be here.
I think it's that feeling
to be just lucky to be on the stage playing in front of people,
lucky to be sitting with you and talking about this.
It's just important for people to understand that complaining has no value.
And if you complain about not having enough money, work more.
If you complain about not having work-life balance
spend more time on vacationing and your family.
It's super simple. Let your actions dictate
instead of sitting there and feeling like you're not in control.
Poor people say, 'I can't afford it, I can't do that, I don't have time.'
it's an escape, you know, I mean it's easy to say I can't afford it,
Oh, I'm too tired. Oh, I can't go to the gym.
You know, when you could go to the gym No, I can't
truth is I'm just too lazy to go to the gym.
My first shows, I was playing in front of five people like..
Some of them didn't even want to be there, honestly.
But I pretended like it was like, a like a big deal
when I started DJing, I was playing..
I remember when like five people would be like, Yeah
and there was like everyone else just doesn't care
I'm like, those are my five people.
I focus on them and after I would talk to them, hang out with them
I used to do that at every show when I was in a band
we would tour across the United States
and we would drive like 10 hours
and we would- we show up I remember in like Albuquerque or something
and there was 12 people that showed up
and after the show, I like hung out with all of them
and one of the guys let us stay in their- in their house
because we were sleeping in our van the whole time.
Man, I was excited after the whole tour
I was like, when are we going to go back again?
And it's like
you know, you have to start in that mindset. It's like you can't
that's the problem with social media right now
is that you're comparing yourself to people that have like this large success
and you're like, I want to play there
but you first have to go with what you have in front of you and make that meaningful.
You can't forget that life is an art.
It's why Oprah and I connected immediately because..
You know, we did a whole episode one time on enlightening people
that didn't have money on how they can live artfully
I said, very easy
I said, can the average fellow
go to Walmart and afford.. it's like a tray
yes, it might be three dollars.
>  Can you afford a cup instead of a paper cup?
Might be a dollar.
> Now, can you put your favorite coffee in that cup?
Can you..
>  Can you go to a market or something and get a nice blueberry muffin?
 >Can you make that look pretty?

 

Put a flower on that tray.

 

Now, can you go give it to your husband or your wife?
They'll think they're at the four seasons
and you have minimal money.
It's how you approach it.
You know, it's the art of life.
Someone wants wealth or they want fame
it- it's harder for that to happen
because it's not based on anything that has a bean exchange to it.
You know, I always say if you want to be
wealthy on just money get into the money business
investments, banking
you know, but if you're in the arts I would..
Do it for art's sake first and then hopefully others will follow
but not make it a prerequisite
but just keep doing the right thing and the good thing will happen.
We all make mistakes.
We all struggle.
This like unconscious feeling that I need to...
prove to my dad that I'm gonna make it.
Because that's like what I grew up with, I grew up with this.
Like I need to make it because he kind of he implanted those
subliminal messages towards me. You know, like when I was a kid
growing up throughout my life.
You know, let's say,
some parent that doesn't want their kid to play violin
okay, and they're antagonist.
You know, you've got to be an accountant, you've got to be an accountant.
You go, okay, Dad
I love you but...
if I become an accountant, I'm becoming what you want me to be
and I have a good chance of having a not so happy life.
Even if I fail at being a violinist
at least I failed on my own terms
and I fail doing something I love.
So you got to let up on me dad
or brother or sister or whoever that character is
that has a counter intention to you.
You have to get with them and get real
and say, "Look, it's my life it's not your life
and this is how I need to do it."
> why are you so hungry?
Like, why do you keep doing this at this level?
Because at the end of the day
you know, that's what you you have as evidence of
a life well-lived, a contribution to people.
You know, you know, if let's say I have 70 movies and..
Each one delivers a kind of joy
to a certain audience
the collage or the mosaic of your career
has this blanketed effect
that suddenly you can go away with pride
that it was a job well done
and you maybe made a difference in a lot of people's lives.
When you do something because you love it
it's being an amateur.
And if you're a professional you have to do it regardless
of whether you love it or whether you feel like it that night.
The trick is to keep both
because if you don't love it then...
it's empty.
You know but we're getting there.
What's crazy is that we- we're actually- the dreams that I had as a kid
they're actually happening which is bizarre and wild.
I really want to showcase to all the young people
that the shy kids, that the kids are like
Yeah, I.. I will not be successful like that.
I will have to, like, sit in a cubicle and do, you know, the boring stuff
which is actually what my dad told me to do.
It's like that's real life.
You have other ways to look at your scenario.
And...
you know, it's it's like, I'm trying to speak to that...
to that demo, to those kids, to those people,
to the young people out there like that.
Even to the older people that are like
maybe I need to stop my job and like pursue something else
or maybe I need to reevaluate what I'm ..
What I want to do with my life.
I'm learning now I think to try to go with the flow,
to enjoy things, not to worry so much.
If you always do good work
from your standards
whether you're in a project that fails or succeeds
you can live with that.
Think I'm 40
Do you know how young we feel?

 

It's...
when you were 26 did you ever think that this is what 44 felt like?
No,
- you thought that was finished. - Yeah
How old are you?
Like you think a 40 years old like...
when I was 25 years old I thought a 40 years old was finished
I do not even feel like I’m starting.
And so I’m giving real advice, and real advice looks like this
When you're 19
And you can spend 7 full years learning your crafts.
Meeting people that are mentors.
Being patient and you wake up and you’re 26 years old
You have your entire life in front of you and you have done great foundational work
to go on and then be successful.

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